7 Points to keep in mind to make a relationship work
The family is the building block of our society, and monogamy is the beginning of that family. Stable marriages build happy families. Stable families strengthen communities and eventually the nations. The life-long commitment has changed into having one partner a time with the modern thinking.
Since divorce is an probable alternative if you feel things aren’t working out you can even sign prenups just to be sure you aren’t losing anything in case of a serperation.
You can either be in an open relationship or in a life-long commitment by marriage but issues are common in any relationship. Therefore let’s look at 7 points that we can keep in mind if we want to keep that initial love and curiosity alive through out the years and to keep the chance of infidelity away for good.
- COMMUNICATE IN LOVE
- KEEP ROMANCE ALIVE
- FULFILL YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES
- HONOR AND RESPECT EACH OTHER
- LEARN TO FORGIVE
- DO THINGS TOGETHER
- GIVE 100% TO YOUR PARTNER
In our fast-paced lives, once married husbands and wives may be busy with their routine and may hardly have time to speak to one another unlike the time they were dating. Some studies have shown that many couples average less than 20 minutes a week in conversation!
But there is a way to capitalize on the brief time you have together—and that is the four minute contact rule. In their book, Contact: The First Four Minutes, Dr. Leonard Zunin and his wife Natalie Zunin explain: “The success or failure of a marriage… can depend on what happens between a husband and wife during just eight minutes of the day: four in the morning upon awakening, and four when you are reunited after the working day” (p. 133).
YOU HAVE A FAMILY TO PROTECT NOT A SOCIETY TO IMPRESS
As times change, so do the sources of stress that marriages face. Research commissioned by the UK law firm Slater and Gordon suggests that an increasing number of couples are citing social media use as a cause of their divorce. Their survey of 2,000 married Brits in 2015 uncovered a number of disturbing trends:
One in seven said that their spouse’s activity on Facebook, Snapchat, and other social apps motivated them to contemplate divorce.
17% of those surveyed said they fought with their partner every day due to social media use, while almost a quarter fought about social media at least once per week.
14% said that they used social media to search for evidence of infidelity.
15% believed that social media was dangerous to their marriage, with Facebook topping the list as the most dangerous platform.
Andrew Newbury, head of family law at the firm, said, “We are now actively advising our clients to be cautious when it comes to using Facebook and all forms of social media because of its potential to damage relationships.”
Therefore, let’s reduce the impact of digital marketing to our lives and have more deep conversations with one another to understand each other better.